My Writings: expressions over time

My Writings: expressions over time

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Tuesday, September 27, 2022

5 Ways Desire Affects Our Lives

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 5 Ways Desire Affects Our Lives

What is desire?

Desire is a want to do or possess something. ‍To progress in life, you must have a basic desire. Struggle or striving cannot exist without desire. The ability to progress, develop, and have a burning desire to accomplish more are all examples of desire.

5 Ways Desire Affects Our Lives

Desires become the driving force to move us forward in life :

Desires create traits that are needed for success. It's the ability to use all of your shortcomings, weaknesses, criticisms, and biases against you and your background while remaining upbeat.

Desire drives us to pursue our goals and abilities to use our power to do what is necessary. The reason why the wish, areas of strength, still up in the air and nonstop, will most often create the object desired is thus immediately understood.

Desires perpetuate positive energy within us:

You have a small voice within your head that cautions you against giving up too quickly. It's the bizarre capacity to resist sleeping in because you have more important things to do. Your objectives are protected by it. It is the demolisher of defences. When you know you should, you should be confident enough to request something a second time.

For example, even if you didn't do well in some of your classes as a student, your desire to succeed drives you to put in more effort until you accomplish in your objective. ‍

One desire leads to  another :

We all go through cycles of internal desires that come and go. Without this steady flow of desire, there would be no incentive to accomplish anything; life would come to a standstill, just as it does for individuals who lose the capacity to desire.

To have one wish for today and another for tomorrow predicts disappointment. Working for one goal this year and a different goal the following year is the best approach to eliminate handedness at the conclusion of each year. Be confident of what you need before using the force of your wants since you might have to accept what you get. On the odd occasion that you are unsure of what you need, strive for improved decision-making and clarity.

Uncontrolled desires make us greedy!

Some people think that without a healthy dosage of greed, a particular person, community, or society may lack the will to advance. In summary, ambition is fueled by greed. Others believe that human beings' tendency toward greed is simply a coping mechanism for life's existential concerns. Since our possessions continue to exist after we pass away, it might even be a way to survive death. In this context, isn't greed just a reality of life? Why don't we just accept it?

 It is also true that a lot of prosperous civilizations are motivated by greed. According to some, political systems designed to restrain greedy behaviour have frequently led to poverty, chaos, and other unfavourable effects. I think that, just like other aspects of life, there must be a balance in order to control greed. like every potential Then, we must remember that relying entirely on one force does not ensure the achievement of any certain goal. It is occasionally possible to perform miracles just via the strength of a focused desire, but usually speaking, it is imperative to utilise the full range of human potential. However, one of the best things we could possibly receive is the capacity to fully express desire with regard to the best gifts we could possibly receive.

Manifesting power through desire: 

 Desire is frequently expressed as a need for power and control, and the urge to become a parent may be driven by a hidden desire to exert control over one's own children. The need for power can be seen as being driven by both aggressive and sexual wants, with the need for authority being primarily related to aggressive impulses. People in positions of power, whether financial, social, or political, including politicians, leaders, managers, and directors, frequently exhibit a strong desire to dominate and control others. The need for power drives the need to acquire more money, fame, or a certain social status, and it also drives the desire to exercise control in order to protect and look after others.


In short ----

Will, desire, and belief are the three components that influence intention. A Being could not act unless it had the want to do so, the will to do so, and the desire to do so without the satisfaction that would come from doing so. Its nature will determine what makes it happy. Its mind determines what it is inherently.






Sunday, September 25, 2022

How can we coexist with grief ?

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How can we coexist with grief ?

 Grief and emotional upheaval

When we endure a loss, it is normal to feel sadness, agony, and grief. It's vital to keep in mind that we are not alone in our suffering, though. Grief is a normal, natural response to loss. It is a technique that enables us to recover and remember the most amazing moments we had with our loved ones.

It may be challenging to remain effective when faced with issues in our life. However, there are strategies that we can use to get through those trying times.

Here are some ideas to help you feel better at a difficult time:

Strategies to deal with grief

1. Acknowledge your grief

Do not attempt to suppress or push away your pain. The first step in recovering from grief is to recognize and accept it. Consider it as a technique of transforming from a condition of total loss to developing a way to live and comprehend your sadness.

2. Discuss your feelings

 Discuss your feelings with a person who will understand and listen. It could be helpful to share your memories and thoughts about your loved one with friends or members of your immediate family. To help you express and manage your feelings, you might also need to speak with a counsellor or therapist.

3. Take care of yourself bodily and emotionally.

Grief can be physically and mentally draining. Make sure you get enough of rest and eat healthy foods. Avoid alcohol and drugs, which can dull your emotions and make it more difficult to deal with your grief in a healthy way.

4. Practice positive thinking

Thinking about the positive aspects of our lives is one way to live effectively. We may focus on the things that make us happy and value the people and things we have. We will also look to the future and contemplate the positive changes we need to make in our lives.

5.Human connection is a great healer

Another way to live is to connect with others. We can seek counsel and discussion from our friends and family members. It can also be very beneficial to join guiding organisations or look for a therapist to talk to. By sharing our experiences with others, we could feel less isolated and keep in mind that we are not going through this alone.

6. Celebrating life of loved one

Starting a blog in their honour is one way to keep their memory alive.  This might be a place where you share recollections, images, and other things that honour their existence. Writing about your memories and making connections with other mourning people can be therapeutic.


Embracing your loss and moving forward

Finally, it's crucial to look after ourselves throughout this time. For instance, we can exercise, eat wholesome foods, and get enough sleep. Self-care will improve our physical and mental well-being, which can result in a more upbeat outlook on life. Recognizing how difficult it is to live with melancholy is the first step. When changing your way of life, dread and apprehension are common. However, if you can name those emotions, moving forward will be less difficult.

Dream Vacation and Bahamas Islands !

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Dream Vacation and Bahamas Islands !

With miles of crystal-clear water, kilometres of white sand beach, and 16 essential islands, the Bahamas can be considered a place to spend a fantasy vacation. Additionally, there is a huge variety of marine life to explore, water sports, delicious neighbouring cuisine, stores, restaurants, and amazing nightlife.

The Bahamas Islands

Location of Bahamas

The Bahamas is about 90 miles off the coast of Florida which makes it ideal for a twin destination holiday – imagine the Bahamas and Miami in one vacation! With over 700 islands and 2,400 cays, the Bahamas islands offer an overwhelming amount of things to do and see, from snorkelling over the famous wreck from the James Bond movie thunder ball, to exploring the natural beauty of the National Park. Take a yacht tour and swim with dolphins ( and sharks if you are brave enough!), or enjoy a round of golf, and cool off with a relaxing drink on the Bahamas' most famous “picture postcard” Cable Beach.

Marine life

Learning to Dive is a wonderful experience that will enable you to touch and see creatures of the deep that you would never get to meet any other way. Local Dive operators supply equipment and offer classes for unguided dives all over the Bahamas, You can qualify as a scuba driver in a few short lessons in the Bahamas and then simply hire equipment and dive at your leisure. Dolphin dives are an amazing experience, swim alongside these friendly, intelligent mammals, and if you are looking to broaden your knowledge about the Coral reef habitat then an Eco dive is perfect.

Capital of Bahamas: Nassau Town

Nassau Town, the capital, has many restaurants, bars and retails stores that sell cheap duty free goods to take home from your Bahamas Holiday from all around the world, best buys are leather goods, watches and fine linen. While you are there why not take a walk up the Water Tower where you can see the whole of the Island or stroll around the library that was once a prison.

Sea World Explorer

Sea World Explorer allows you to admire the sea inside a Submarine. This kind of activity is located around the Islands of Grand Bahamas and New Providence and is a tour not to be missed for the photo opportunities alone.


If you enjoy active nightlife there are a wide range of Clubs, casinos, live music venues and local performing arts groups. If you are lucky enough to be on the islands in June, the Junkanoo is a fantastic way of finding out about the Islands' culture and history. There are costume-making exhibitions, dancing and other carnival activities and to feed your appetite, are many fish fry stalls.

Undoubtedly, the Bahamas are the most practical island paradise. The Bahamas provide something for everyone.




Saturday, September 17, 2022

More Than Enough !!

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More Than Enough !!

  Your soul has a void, not your home.

Sarah peered out the window on a grey day. In spite of the torrential rain, the summer flowers in the backyard appeared to be waving joyfully at her. The weather had not made her happy. She was eager to go shopping. Exactly what did she wish to purchase? Nearly all of her needs have been met. She has accumulated a lot of items in her home due to her shopping addiction that she probably won't use very often.

Simple Living

Material possession do not always bring happiness!

But Sarah is not the only one who feels this way. Today, a lot of individuals rely on material possessions to satisfy their needs or relieve stress. The fact that marketing and advertising have mastered the art of persuading consumers to purchase products doesn't help either. It has a significant effect on the nation's capitalist, the growth-oriented economy as well. According to this logic, increased consumer spending benefits everyone. (Ignore the environmental effects of all this production and waste, or the reality that they sometimes spend money they don't have.) People inherently want things.

Era of Consumerism

But the roots of American consumption are also sociological factors that are typically ignored. We all experience social pressure to keep up with others. And in an increasingly unequal society, those at the top are the ones doing most of the consuming, while those at the bottom either struggle to keep up or are ultimately left battling for scraps.

 Enough is a decision, not an amount - Alison Faulkner

On the other side, Sarah’s sister, Maryam is the exact opposite of her. She prefers to read a book at home while she is home by herself. Maryam’s house doesn't have a lot of furniture. Additionally, she constantly gets rid of items that are not being used. It seems like more and more individuals are feeling stressed, anxious, or overwhelmed as a result of clutter.

Like Maryam, many people in this contemporary day prefer simple living or living with less. Without a doubt, stress and anxiety are the main causes of people's decision to live simply or minimally. They made the decision to act after realising how their extra possessions contributed to their anxiousness.

The Sustainable Minimalist podcast presenter Stephanie Seferian asserts that "minimalism is the deliberate decision to live with less." She continues, "For instance, while I maintain a clutter-free house and lifestyle, I also apply minimalism to my social calendar since I enjoy doing less. As a result, I have more free time to spend with the people I love and do the activities I actually love.

 What possible benefits may living on less have? Here is the list that might be helpful in this regard.

-More quality time: Less clutter equals more time for family and friends and less  time spent cleaning or organising. With minimalism, we may concentrate on our top objectives.

- More money. Because you'll be purchasing and keeping fewer items, having fewer possessions means saving more money. You'll also realise that spending money on experiences and quality time with loved ones rather than just tangible possessions is a better use of your money.

-Good for the environment: By buying less and using less, you'll also be reducing your consumption of the planet's natural resources — therefore doing your part to help out the environment!

-Increased attentiveness and thankfulness: You'll be able to appreciate what you already have more if you try to live on less. Minimalism, allows you to appreciate a few items in a physical environment in a deeper sense than having tonnes of crowded stuff. It is quite similar to mindfulness in that it prompts you to think about the things you do and don't include in your life.

Our Actions!!

Finally, there are actions we may do in our daily lives to combat covetousness. First, some introspection can be beneficial. Over the course of a few months, we could keep track of and categorise our spending. This might help us better grasp what we need and how to stop squandering money. Second, a commercialization opportunity would be helpful. During this time, try to avoid participating in any promotions, shopping trips, looking through encyclopaedias, watching home renovation shows, or other similar pursuits. This is both liberating and unconventional. Finally, simply depart with some cash. Make a promise to a nonprofit organisation, a neighbourhood watch group, or a help organisation to provide a certain amount of money on a regular basis. It might be challenging but in the end very rewarding.

Although Sarah and Maryam have quite different outlooks on life, they both need to take a break from their hectic schedules and unwind in some way. Since I am not in their shoes, I am not here to pass judgement on anyone. But I do believe that leading a simple existence is a style of life that is good for both you and the rest of society and the environment.

Tuesday, August 30, 2022

What positive thinking methods can we use?

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What positive thinking methods can we use?


Many years ago, while I was experiencing despair as a result of a family tragedy, one of my friends said that we should strive to adopt optimistic thoughts to improve our lives because there are always positive and negative aspects to every circumstance.

Positive Thinking Techniques

 Thinking positively can help you live a better life. I think a lot of us will concur with this. Those who are still dubious about it could take into account the cases of two applicants who were vying for a good, profitable position at a large corporation.

Candidate 1 had a negative mentality about himself and expected disappointment. This caused him to accept that different candidates were preferable qualified over him.

During the meeting, he was worried, anxious and hungry. His psyche and consideration were diverted, and this made it hard for him to zero in on the meeting. His conduct established a terrible connection, and thusly, he emerged from his trepidation and didn't land the position.

 Candidate 2 frequently envisioned himself establishing a decent connection and landing the position. He additionally rehashed Positive confirmations with that impact. He got up promptly in the first part of the day, and in this way, had adequate opportunity to have breakfast and venture out from home on time. This empowered him to show up to the meeting before the booked hour, revived and quiet. He kept composed and certain during the meeting, established a decent connection, and landed the position.

These examples show how attitude, behaviour, and approach have a significant impact on day-to-day life. The next query can be, "What exactly is positive thinking? "

 What is positive reasoning?

Positive reasoning is a psychological and profound disposition of anticipating great and ideal outcomes, and not getting deterred when plans don't continue true to form. It implies attempting over once more and not tolerating rout.

It is an inclination to focus on what is fantastic and positive in a situation rather than what is bad. With this attitude, you refuse to accept defeat and allow nothing bad to alter your mindset or perspective.

A person with positive reasoning focuses on the good aspects of others rather than the bad. Good faith and a positive outlook are the hallmarks of positive reasoning. It entails not getting discouraged by obstacles, problems, or delays and instead envisioning a better, happier existence. An individual with a good mentality would empower and inspire individuals, and attempt to propel them and encourage them.

Additional definitions of positive reasoning include:

1. Positive reasoning is the attitude of allowing thoughts, phrases, images, and feelings into the brain that contribute to growth, accomplishment, and desirable results. A psychological attitude expects positive outcomes.

2. With this perspective, you give yourself and others significant thought, and you envision a better future.

3. While negative reasoning focuses on the problems and obstacles, positive thinking looks for


The Benefits of Positive Thinking

What benefits can optimistic thinking offer?

1. A positive mental attitude leads to positive thoughts, which have a big impact on many commonplace difficulties.

2. This type of behaviour improves your psychological and physical health, local well-being, and defence mechanism.

3. This attitude can increase assurance and delight while reducing pressure and anxiety.

4. Having such a perspective improves your relationships with people by making you more upbeat, courteous, and accommodating.

5. You become more inspired and can encourage people to work on themselves and their lives with this psychological perspective.

6. You avoid having negative self-talk and instead use positive self-talk.

7. A mindset that focuses on excellent and positive factors inspires positive emotions.

Norman Vincent Peale published "The Power of Positive Thinking" in 1952. The concept of positive reasoning was advanced in this work. Peale provided helpful advice to help the reader achieve a positive mentality in his book, which is still widely read today. He used statements and perceptions in his strategies.


How to Think Positively?

Since attitude and contemplations remain unchanged for the time being, some internal work is anticipated to shift the psyche in a favourable direction.

There are a few ways to harness this power and add vitality to your life, including:

1. Become familiar with this topic by reading books and articles on it, and regularly weighing its benefits.

2. Steer clear of groups that promote negative attitudes and pessimistic perspectives.

3. Use your imagination to create only positive and helpful scenarios; avoid creating problems or disappointment. This will establish a pattern where energy draws other energy directly into it, resulting in good improvements in your life.

4. When conversing with others and internally, use uplifting language. Make use of words like,

It's time for a mental self-evaluation whenever you feel like giving up or quitting. To find the strength to keep trying, ask yourself these questions: What else can you achieve? What could be accomplished with a little extra work? What do you think about your capacity to handle the current scenario or unforeseen circumstance?

 If you're thinking about a task you wish to finish, take into account this: The sky is not the limit in this situation. What matters is what you are prepared to consider, work toward, and commit to. What you can believe has no boundaries.